If it wasn’t because of them, I wouldn’t be existing.
And being on the road all by myself, it made me realize how much I love them and how much I see a lot of them in me. They are my biggest support system.
The most important lesson I learned from mom and dad is probably:
You buy daily bread at the bakery, meat at the butcher.
They taught me the value of quality in life.
My mom raised the 4 of us practically by herself while my dad was working. She was the one taking us everywhere, to the beach, to the zoo, visiting city’s. My travellers blood comes from her part of the family. When I decided to go to school in Bruges – about 1 hour away from my home town – that was the first time she saw her dad in me. He was also always on the road, to see new things, to discover new places.
My dad was all about the value of money and hard work. Nothing comes for free but when you work hard, you deserve to play hard. Not that money was to play around. But being with our dad was always about pure quality time. It didn’t happen often, so when it did, we all enjoyed it to the fullest. He was the one making sure that we could take most of our time together.
I haven’t been living at home much. When I was 15, I decided to go to Culinary Arts and boarding school in Bruges. 5 years later, I moved back to my parents to work in a restaurant down the street. Very convenient and it gave me the chance to start to think about what I would do with my life.
My boyfriend at the time was a Dutch guy so moving to The Netherlands was a logical decision for me to make.
When I decided to come to New York all by myself, they knew deep down it wasn’t going to be only for 3 months. So it wasn’t really a surprise when I called home during my last week here to tell them I started to look for a job, that I actually applied already and got hired.
‘Good for you, we thought so, so yeah, go ahead, make it work! We just wanted you to make that decision on your own. But we knew… you’re our daughter, of course we knew’
To have their support is most important for me. If they don’t agree, I will rethink my choice. It feels like a true blessing to have a mom and dad like that.
They taught me important lessons in life, gave me the time and space to develop myself, gave me the opportunities, not only to succeed but also to fail. If my plan didn’t work out how I wanted it, I could always come back. My room would be ready and diner served at the table with everybody around it.
So mom and dad: I love you! More than you can imagine! I have the deepest respect for the way you raised us, both in your own way but together, it was – still is – perfect!
With Love and Happiness :: ANN ::